How to change self-destructive patterns — Becoming Who You Are

Hello Readers,

You are welcome once again to my blog! I am starting an exciting series on different kinds of destructive habits, how they manifest in us as individuals, what brings them about, and the way out! Will you stay with me on this journey and see if I have a thing or two that can help you in any way (no matter how little!) to live a more beautiful life?

Great! So let’s get on it!

I think it not very necessary to define “Self-destructive” as the term is already self-explanatory. Habits then are things we do regularly that seem to now have a force that is more powerful than our will (if we have it…) not to do those things.

How many times have you asked yourself why you continue doing unhealthy things that you know will hurt you in the long run?

How many times have you tried to stop doing something negative or start doing something positive but are UNABLE?

And how many times have you refused help from people you know love you and want the best for you?

Harbouring self-defeating mindsets, romancing with self-pity and low self-esteem, avoiding social interactions and pushing people away, etc., all prove that most self-destructive behaviours stream from lack of identity and low self-worth. To then deal with unhealthy behaviours or habits, you must first start to understand you are precious and invaluable as an individual and as such must also practice self-compassion.

Some psychologists speculate that self-destructive behaviours may be coping mechanisms to deal with stress, pressure, social demands, etc. The associated behaviours include rage, over- or under-eating, smoking and alcoholism, and so on.

Some others believe they are ways of maintaining ‘comfort zones’. One example is doing everything to stay at the familiar bottom of the social ladder because one lacks confidence, feel unworthy or do not think they deserve more in life. These kind of people, for example, pass up opportunities or miss important interviews and blame it on anxiety.

Self-destructive behaviours usually hide in those places we have conditioned ourselves to ignore and avoid. They lurk in those corners of our lives we intentionally choose not to see—but they are there. Whether we like it or not. And the more we avoid facing our self-destructive behaviours and dealing with them, the more they gain power to consume us.

So, are you ready to face this part of you and find help to set yourself free? If YES, please stay tuned as I roll out post upon post of self-destructive habits and how to deal with them!

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