Did you have a long list of what you wanted to start doing or stop doing this new year? Did you feel you were up to the task and it would just be an easy thing to do if you were determined? Did they end up being just a to-do list for the first week of January?! And do you feel bad at having failed at your resolutions? You are not alone!
Many of us had great plans for the new year. We wanted to start eating right, exercising often, reading more… We wanted to start that blog, end that toxic relationship, stop being an internet addict 😁, break some bad habits and let go of everything that makes us stop! We had it all laid out, well planned and waiting for execution. We spent the last days of December figuring it out and waiting for the 1st of January to…shoot!
Sure, you had them going the first few days in January and you must have been feeling really great you finally get to be the ‘better person’ you’ve always wanted to be. But, a couple more days you catch yourself dragging your feet at your resolutions and you are like, ‘be strong girl!’. That’s exactly when you remember all the stories you hear about people building patterns and new habits if they stick to certain routines for certain number of days, and you encourage yourself so much, trying to forget that the same thing happened last year and the year before and…you ‘failed’.
Thing is, we are all guilty of waiting for January to make a new beginning and that’s where we get it wrong. This is because, when we fail at doing those things we promised ourselves to do, we unconsciously reset to ‘next time’, or worst still, ‘next year’ (and I promise you, you wouldn’t even know you have done this to yourself) While you are there, subconsciously thinking you probably might not be able to get over eating junks just cause you tried to quit and could only go as far as, say 10th January, for example, you give up and keep stuffing yourself with more junks, lamenting your woe and romancing your love for junks, all at the same time.
You broke your rule few days into January, so what? 😏 What happened to starting all over? What stops you from reaffirming your decision to get things ‘right’ this year and beginning again by making sure you stick to your set goals starting from that moment, knowing those decisions will bring you good, help you live a healthier, livelier and more beautiful life?
When we understand that we make these decisions for ourselves and what is ultimately good for us, we would stop being bound by time or days, or a particular period in time. We would make our decisions and when we don’t live up to it, we would try again the next day! Because we know everyday is an opportunity to start over. Everyday is a clean sheet of paper on which to write something new!
A new year may not necessarily be a new beginning, a start of something new, a change, or a new phase in one’s life. Any day can be! It’s high time we all learnt that January 1st is just another day of our lives which has begun for a while. There is absolutely nothing extremely special about it, really. So, choose to face your battles boldly, EVERYDAY, and conquer them ALL, one day at a time!
Resolution or no resolutions, live each day truly. If its hard, or you messed up at something, get yourself together and TRY AGAIN TOMORROW. I know you won’t keep failing every single day till the end of the year. I know you will stop that bad habit, break that addiction, leave that toxic relationship, be a better person, make great friends, learn new skills, master old ones, take charge of your health, keep fit, and more! One day at a time. I believe in you that much. Do you believe in yourself? You have to! That’s the key to achieving success.
..determine to keep going!
A new year may not necessarily be a new beginning, a start of something new, a change, or a new phase in one’s life. Any day can be!
Have you failed at keeping your new year resolutions? How far into the month did you go? Do you still want to keep them? Have I inspired you to start over in spite of the break? Let me know in the comments section! Thank you!